Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Filling in the Blanks


Some people are open books, and some open the book enough for us to see a paragraph or two.  I suppose that the difference lies mainly in the personality, but I have little doubt that some is based on life experiences.  Let’s face it, some of us skate through life relatively unscathed.  Some of us have experiences that change us, make us more guarded.  The guarded ones - the private ones, can confuse us.  Unfortunately, sometimes the “blanks” are filled in using our own experiences - which are biased and often inaccurate.  We see this in Pages in the Wind, when Emily tries to figure out her brother and his various moods.

I rubbed my eyes trying to figure out who Robert really is — the sweet boy that helped me or the irritable boy that just walked out of here.  I leaned back in my chair deep in thought, and realized that he is probably both.  The second one scares me, because it’s a side of him that he doesn’t want anyone to see - a kink in his armor.  There is something in his eyes that I see when he doesn’t know I’m looking at him.  It’s always been there at one time or another, and I know what it is - it’s fear.  Maybe being the perfect kid all the time has it’s own burden.
Emily got the fear right, but not the reason for the fear.  She can’t know because she hasn’t seen it.  I find myself becoming much less judgmental the older I get.  Too often I have found that what I thought was true - just wasn’t.  Avoiding conjecture and biased interpretations is a challenge, for sure.  I have learned that it’s better to wait - let the truth unfold - with my eyes open and not clouded with false interpretations.  I’m a work in progress - but I’m trying.

8 comments:

  1. I agree and had not thoughts that way. Love your blog!

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  2. I must admit that I also fill in the blanks. You're right, you just have to think before judging. I've found this out but its so hard to learn the lesson enough to not do it anymore. Your writing is great , and has given me the realization that I should try harder.

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  3. Great post - I agree that we jump to conclusions. I don't know if we're taught that way or if we just all get too busy to take the time. Love your blog.

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  5. This hits a home run in my life. We do tend to make excuses in our lives for the people we love. You writing is beautiful, and so are you by the way. Look forward to reading a lot more.

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  6. I really enjoyed this post because it rings so true of life. Love your blog, I am now following. I definitely look forward to reading more and buying the book when you're done. Thank you for the great insight.

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  7. Your post sure made me think of my own life. I do that all the time, just never put words to it. Your writing is awesome, and i am sure that I will look forward to coming back even more. I like your spin on emotions and what makes people tick. Thank you!

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  8. Very nice blog and it looks like an interesting book is on the horizon. I'll look forward to seeing it and reading it. Sure to be a great read. Love the way you write. Good luck with your endeavors.

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